Archive for April 2011

Finding Me

Tim and I got married young. We started dating the summer before I started my Senior year in high school. I turned 18 in early May and we were married at the end of June. This year we will be married for 10 years. We have had our fair share of ups and downs, but have made it through and our relationship is stronger because of them.

Lately however, I’ve been thinking that I’ve never had the time to get to know myself. That’s sort of silly, to think I don’t know myself as well as I should. My entire adult life has been about me and someone else. And for the last few years it’s been about myself and two other people.

Obviously I know my likes and dislikes. However, I’ve never built up a hobby. Or learned something new, just for me and because I wanted to. Tim is good about developing his own hobbies. When we started dating he was really into weather. He could tell you all about weather patterns and what they mean for our climate. Lately, he’s been into tropical gardening, which is quite a feat when you live in WI!

What do I like? I like reading. I have quite a few television shows which I follow faithfully. I’ve dabbled in crochet and scrapbooking. But I don’t have anything that I’m really passionate about. I want to change this. I want to find and own a hobby. I’ve got a few ideas and I’ll share them here as I explore more options.

I love blogging about my daughter and our life. I read back in time and what I wrote reminds me of memories I had forgotten all about. I’m not going to stop that. But I want to add another aspect to this blog. I need somewhere to remind myself to just be me. A place where I can try and fail and then try something else.


Add a comment April 29, 2011

Overreactions: The Effect of Being Stuck Inside

Nap time is becoming a thing of the past. It’s both frustrating and welcome. On days like today when it’s raining outside, I’m tired and there’s nothing we need to get done it is frustrating. During the weekend when we’re busy and don’t necessarily want to come home in the middle of the day to accommodate a nap it is welcome.

The one thing that absolutely drives me nuts though is the fact that Charla still pees in her diaper even if she doesn’t sleep. She’s been potty trained for over a year, since she was 21 months old. She still wears diapers during nap and bedtime because when she’s sleeping, she can’t seem to hold it yet. I get that and am never upset about it.

As a preface to the story I must say that as of today, we have been stuck in the house for 3 days due to rain. I’m tired, bored and just want a break. So, when Charla didn’t nap for the 5th day in a row (even though she’s been sick) and then peed in her diaper, which leaked, I got upset, overreacted and put her on a time out. Something so minimal in the grand scheme of things. Then I told her that whenever she peed in her diaper when she was awake, she was getting a time out. Maybe I just won’t put a diaper on her at nap anymore. She’s almost 3, she should be ok at naptime.

Anyway, to end on a positive note, the playset wood was delivered this morning so Tim and my dad are going to build it tomorrow afternoon. The weather is supposed to be sunny and almost 60, so I’m looking forward to getting out of the house. I need out so bad!

Add a comment April 28, 2011

Now This…

So, after a wonderful weekend, I’m now stuck with a sick child and a sinus infection.

Why does it always have to be something? Why can’t life just go smoothly for a little bit?

Last week Charla and I got sick with a stomach bug. After the typical 24 hours we were both feeling much better. I had thought I was getting a cold prior to the stomach bug, but then it went away. Over the course of the last 2 days, the side of my face started hurting. Now this morning I woke up and it’s definitely a sinus infection. I wasn’t expecting Charla to be sick too though.

Charla woke up and her cheeks were all red. She was also whining and saying she didn’t want to go to school. Sure enough, 100.5 fever. So she’s dosed up with Ibuprofen and I’m going to the doctor. Luckily my mom was willing to come over and watch Charla while I go. I could have taken Charla, she’s a good kid and not so sick that she would have been disruptive. But “Papa” is a much better option and Charla is excited to see her, despite not feeling 100%.

I’m crossing my fingers for a healthy end of the week!

Add a comment April 26, 2011

Long Weekend

We had a wonderful Easter weekend.

It started on Friday. We took Charla to see Rio. I told her we were going to see a really big TV. When we walked into the lobby she looked around and asked me where the TV was. I tried to time things so we got there after the previews started so we would only have  a couple minutes before the movie started. As we walked  in, the previews were finishing up. I asked her if she was ready to see the big TV.  When she saw it, her eyes got HUGE! She was mesmerized. The movie was super cute and held her attention the entire time. The bucket of popcorn she ate helped a bit too I think. All in all, a big success.

Saturday we didn’t have anything planned. The weather was okay, it was in the low 50’s but cloudy and pretty windy. We got outside in the morning for a little bit. Tim planted a bunch of flowers while Charla and I colored with chalk, blew bubbles and swung. We took her to the park in the afternoon so she could fly her kite and then dyed eggs after dinner. The weekend could have ended right there and it would have been a great time. It was fun, relaxing and Charla was in a good mood pretty much the entire time. There are some weekends I end up counting down the hours to Monday, this was definitely not one of them!

When Charla woke up Easter morning she got to look for her Easter basket. Of course the bunny came and brought her all sorts of little things. She’s not a fan of chocolate, so Easter shopping was kind of challenging. It seems like 99% of Easter candy has some form of chocolate in it! The two chocolate items she likes are M&M’s and Reeses Peanut Butter cups. So, she got those, jelly beans and a push pop. The she got a flower snap bracelet, two little nail polishes, and headbands. Unfortunately, the headbands hurt her head. I was disappointed because she looks so cute in them and they get her hair off her face.

Her hair……bit of a tangent here. It is so thin and flyaway. It’s getting longer but it’s still not long enough to weigh itself down and it is multiple layers because none of it grows at the same speed. I’ve been trimming the back hoping for the sides to catch up. For awhile I was toying with the idea of cutting her bangs but Tim says absolutely not. So, her head resembles a dandelion fluff.

Anyway, now it’s Monday and time to get back to normal life. I wish every weekend could be so fun and relaxing!

Add a comment April 25, 2011

Winter: Take 2

Yesterday was a long day. I ended up catching what Charla had last weekend and it was no fun. It always amazes me how resilient kids are. Charla was hardly phased by being sick. Me on the other hand, I laid on the couch all day and felt like I was dying. I was so glad Charla had school in the morning because after I dropped her off, I took a 1 hour nap. Thankfully I’m feeling better today.

Today is Charla’s last day of school before Easter break. Tim and I are still planning on taking Charla to her first movie on Friday. It looks like we’re going to see Rio. I wanted to take her to Hop but apparently it’s not a cartoon and it’s rated PG. Charla has seen a handful of PG movies but they’ve all been cartoons and geared towards the G audience but with maybe one or two bad jokes thrown in to keep the adults entertained. Rio looks really cute though so I’m sure we’ll have a good time.

We finally have some sun outside today. The last few days have been miserable. The temperature hasn’t gotten above 40 and we got measurable snow on Tuesday. It’s nearing the end of April and we got 2 inches of snow. This spring is taking forever to get here and now I’m starting to get a little impatient. Charla wants to be able to consistently go outside and go to parks and the weather is severely preventing this. It’s gotten to the point that whenever she asks to go to the park she follows it with “when it’s warmer outside”. Poor girl, she should be able to enjoy the park this time of year but it’s simply not enjoyable when it’s 30 degrees outside with a stiff wind blowing.

Hurry up spring!

Add a comment April 21, 2011

Egg Hunt

We had a busy weekend! I love weekends that start out slow but then pick up and, before you know it, you hardly have a free moment. That was our weekend.

It started out with Charla having a minor fever/stomach bug. She wasn’t that sick, just sick enough to want to lay on the couch until 10AM watching Sunny Patch. I laid down, she laid on top of me and we cuddled for an hour. Then her Ibuprofen kicked in and she was ready to go! It was rainy on Saturday so we played downstairs, read books, painted and played some Kinect bowling.

Sunday was our busy day. Tim was going to have my dad and brother over to help him build Charla’s playset. We bought this for her birthday, along with my parents. It’s got swings and a slide. She’s so excited. Unfortunately, the weather did not cooperate. It was sunny but it was only in the upper 30’s/lower 40’s with 30 mph winds, not great playset building weather. So, we’ll have to wait until the weekend after Easter.

So, Tim and I took Charla to an Easter egg hunt. The hunt was at the church my mom works at. Charla had a lot of fun. The kids are split up in 2 groups according to age: 1 to 5 and 6 to 12. This is so nice because those older kids had their eggs cleaned up about 5 minutes after the hunt started! Charla filled up her Easter basket and then said she was done. We went inside and emptied out all her treats. She got mostly chocolate, which was disappointing for her because she doesn’t like chocolate, but I don’t mind! She’ll get plenty of treats she likes from the Easter bunny, so I don’t feel bad stealing her chocolate!

After the hunt we went out for lunch with my parents then headed over to their house. We stayed and chatted the afternoon away, getting home right before dinner.

The rest of the week is supposed to be cold and rainy. Spring simply refuses to start this year. We’re facing a 3 day weekend coming up. Tim and I are talking about taking Charla to her first movie on Friday…..we’ll see. I think she’ll sit for at least most of it. I guess if we have to leave a little early it won’t be the end of the world.

Add a comment April 19, 2011

House Hunting

Over the last 6 months my parents have been looking for condos. They aren’t in a super hurry to leave their home, but neither want to do the yard work anymore and my mom would like to do laundry on the main floor. I’ve gone with them on a few viewings but nothing has jumped out to any of us.

Last night we went to another viewing. They’re looking for a 2 bedroom condo with an open concept and a quiet neighborhood. You wouldn’t think that would be so difficult to find with all the homes on the market today, but every condo we’ve gone to look at has something wrong with it. The one last night didn’t have central air, yard work and snow removal weren’t included and the laundry was in the garage (?!?!?!?!). There was also a window installed in the hallway with this fake flickering lamp thing. Apparently the little old lady who lived there had it installed because it reminded her of home. Sounds sweet, right? NO, that light was creepy! My dad liked it, but he was the only one!

On the plus side it had a private backyard, open concept, fireplace in the living room and lake access. It’s all check and balances but I’m pretty sure the yard work is going to put an end to that condo. Something keeps drawing my parents to it though because this was the second tour they took of it and they had the real estate agent come price their home.

I wonder if they want to downsize as much as they just want a change. Perhaps their home right now just feels too big with me and my brother gone. Maybe the last year has put a sour look over that home, with my dad’s heart attack and my mom suffering through severe back pain all summer long. Or, maybe they want to start off their retirement years in a quiet place of their own since there are quite a few young families around where they live now.

It will be hard to say goodbye to that house. My parents built it when I was just 1 year old. There are so many childhood memories there as well as adult memories. I wanted Charla to grow up with memories of that home. But I can’t be selfish about it either. I understand their need to move on. They are at a different time in their life and are looking for a home to reflect that. In the end, home will be wherever mom and dad are.

Add a comment April 15, 2011

35 Months

As of today, Charla has exactly 1 more month of being a 2 year old. I can’t believe how fast this time has gone. I plan on cherishing these next few years because I know, soon enough, my innocent child will grow up and become even more independent than she is now.

When Charla was born, her great-grandparents set up a college account. We get a statement every 3 months and yesterday one happened to come in the mail. Tim was looking it over right before we sat down for dinner and we started talking about it. Charla picked right up on that and asked if that was her money. We said yes but she had to use it to go to college. Charla then said “you want to come to college with me guys?” So cute and innocent. Mommy and Daddy are still the center of her world. As much as it’s annoying at times that she constantly wants to play with me, it won’t last forever. Soon enough she’ll be telling me to leave her and her friends alone. Or that she doesn’t want to spend time as a family, she would rather talk on the phone or browse facebook, or whatever else is popular when she’s 7 or 8.

But for now, I’m going to fully enjoy this last month with a 2 year old and look forward to a summer with a 3 year old.

Add a comment April 14, 2011

How the Sandbox Creates Friendships

Ahhhh, another beautiful day out. I’ve been soaking up the vitamin D the last few days by spending as much time as possible outside. Charla has been swinging, playing in her sandbox and kicking balls around the yard. On Sunday, it was even warm enough for her to splash in her pool for a little while.

Yesterday I picked Charla up from school and took her to the park. On a normal day we come home and she goes down for nap 20 minutes later. It was nice to change up the routine and get some fresh air before nap. Then, she napped for 2 hours and I got an hour nap, so it was well worth it. I might take her to another park this afternoon because the next few days are going to be rainy.

I got to see first hand yesterday how Charla makes friends. It was so cute! The two neighbor girls were standing on the edge of our property and I could tell they wanted to come over and play. So, I told Charla if she wanted to play with those girls she should ask them to come over. She looked at them and said “do you want to play with me?”, it melted my heart. They ran over and spent the next 20 minutes digging in the sandbox together.

Charla is not quite 3 (next month) so her conversational skills were a bit lacking. She kept talking to me about the girls, like they weren’t there, but it was so cute. She showed them her shirt and her pink fingernails. And she helped fill up buckets with sand. When it was time to go have dinner she said “but I want to stay and play with my friends!”  I love watching her bud into a little girl.

Add a comment April 13, 2011

The Job of Motherhood

I’ve written many times about how much I love being a mommy. But, there’s the reverse side of it too. It’s exhausting, thankless and time consuming work. There are times when I look back longingly at life before baby. Not that I would ever want to go back there permanently, but a week might be nice!

I hit a roadblock on Saturday. I was tired, Charla decided not to nap and I didn’t want to do anything. I didn’t want to play. Didn’t want to read. Didn’t want to go outside and push her in the swing. So, I took a nap and Tim played with her. I ended up sleeping for 2.5 hours and boy, did I need it! Once I woke up, I felt human again and could push aside my desire to do nothing.

I really don’t know how single parents do it. I supposed they just do it because they have to, there’s no one else to do it and things must get done. I do most of the housework and child care around here, but when I do need that break, I can usually get it. Raising a child is a lot more tiring than I thought it would be. It’s a lot more rewarding than I thought too though, so I guess it balances out.

Add a comment April 12, 2011

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